Now comes the good stuff…
Ever since I started life coaching as a career, I’ve said that I help people find purpose, clarity, and direction. But if I’m being honest, finding purpose doesn’t always happen the way people think it will.
Sometimes it doesn’t show up during a perfectly planned moment.
Sometimes it shows up right in the middle of your frustration, heartbreak, exhaustion, or confusion.
That’s exactly how it happened for me.
I was sitting in church angry one Sunday morning. Not “cute irritated.” I mean genuinely struggling with my attitude and trying to pull myself together. Life felt heavy, and honestly, I didn’t even really want to be there that morning.
Then the song “Nobody” by Casting Crowns started playing.
Something about the words hit me differently that day.
And then it happened.
Clear as day, I heard:
“You are not a nobody. You are a vessel to tell other people they have a purpose too.”
Now listen…
as crazy as that sounds, I literally looked around to see who was talking to me.
I knew in my spirit who it was, but my mind was trying to convince me there was no way God was speaking directly to me like that.
But He was.
And that moment changed everything.
Not because all my problems magically disappeared.
Not because I suddenly had every answer.
But because for the first time, I realized my pain wasn’t pointless.
My story had purpose.
The setbacks.
The mistakes.
The deployments.
The grief.
The rebuilding.
The pivots.
All of it mattered.
That’s one of the biggest things I talk about in my book Minding What Matters.
Purpose is not always hiding in some giant, dramatic life moment.
Sometimes purpose is buried underneath the pain you survived.
Sometimes it’s found in the lessons you learned the hard way.
Sometimes it’s discovered the moment you stop asking, “Why did this happen to me?” and start asking, “How can this help someone else heal?”
That shift changes everything.
In the book, I share reflection questions and practical ways to help you rediscover who you are underneath everything life has piled on top of you.
Because purpose is still there.
Even after divorce.
Even after loss.
Even after addiction.
Even after failure.
Even after the military.
Even after heartbreak.
Even after the version of you that existed before no longer fits.
You are still here.
And if you are still here…
God is not done with you yet.
Sometimes purpose doesn’t arrive with fireworks.
Sometimes it whispers.
And sometimes that whisper is the very thing that helps you rise again.
— Tamara Lea Patrick
Pivot Coaching 4 Restarting You
“Rising isn’t optional… it’s who we are.”